Every single day, multiple times a day, we are faced with decisions to make. The decisions which need to be made come in many different colors, shapes and sizes, but they all have a common foundation to them… a fundamental, underlying choice that goes along with the more obvious surface level decision. This underlying choice is called the Point of Power, and it is truly liberating when you understand how to wield it.
Your Power Starts with a Decision
There are Six Fundamental Behaviors we can choose from every day, three of which are negative and keep us from achieving our goals, and three of which are powerfully positive and lead us to where we want to go. We need to teach ourselves to recognize when the decision we are making involves one of these behaviors. The Point of Power is that critical tipping point where we choose to move forward or we choose to lag behind.
The 3 Negative Behaviors that Drain Your Power
The three negative behaviors you can choose are:
• Blaming Others for your failings
• Making Excuses or giving “Reasons” why you didn’t do or achieve what you should have
• Denial that there is even a problem in your business or life
When you choose these behaviors, you’re more likely to be closed-minded and defensive. You are more likely to struggle. You are more likely to have problems in your relationships, your business, and your overall well-being.
The 3 Positive Behaviors that Fuel Your Power
The three positive behaviors you can choose are:
• Being Responsible
• Being Accountable
• Taking Ownership
Being Responsible is all about doing what we know we need to do, no matter how hard. Being Accountable is about getting the results or outcomes we commit to, and Taking Ownership means being all in, 110%, owning your business and your life. When you choose these behaviors, you are more likely to be successful and have healthier relationships.
Which Will You Choose?
Here are a few tips to help you choose wisely:
• Be open to feedback and listen to other people’s perspectives.
• Practice mindfulness – pay attention to the present moment without judgement.
• Be willing to apologize. People will respect you more when you own up to your mistakes.
• Be willing to forgive. Holding onto anger keeps you from moving forward.
• Start a gratitude journal.
• Be honest with yourself. Acknowledge the reality of your situation, come to terms with it, and talk it out with someone you trust.
Making the Decision to move forward gives you Power, the power to succeed, to push through, to achieve more than you ever felt possible. Choose wisely. Use the leverage of the Point of Power to overcome whatever obstacle is in front of you.
Author: Mark McNulty, Business Coach